Celebrating Mercy & Reconciliation
Yesterday, the Holy Father wrote in a letter written on the occasion of
This month in the
It's a stark contrast. Licentiousness and "do what thou wilt", versus developing a "well-formed conscience" and striving for holiness in one's life. The Holy Father writes that the "sense of sin is lost [and] feelings of guilt increase which people [then] seek to eliminate by recourse to inadequate palliative remedies." I have seen for myself, for decades, the physical, mental, moral, and spiritual destruction such "palliative remedies" wreaks on not just the individual, but entire families. I have looked into those lost and despairing eyes, in the dark of the night, as they weep, and wonder how things got so bad. Why do they feel so lost, why does it hurt so much, if they're having so much "fun"?
The Holy Father urges priests to make use of the spiritual and pastoral tools they have available to them to contribute to the healthy formation of consciences. "Like all the sacraments, the sacrament of Penance too requires catechesis beforehand and a mystagogical catechesis for a deeper knowledge of the sacrament: 'per ritus et preces.'
Catechesis should be combined with a wise use of preaching, which has had different forms in the Church's history according to the mentality and pastoral needs of the faithful."
Oh, would that our bishops and our priests would only actually DO this! I have heard horrible stories of priests in the confession over the years - not the stories of priests who are too hard on a person, or the nasty stories of the old priest who yelled at the poor penitent - but priests who don't listen, who try to play pop psychologist, who brush off a person's sense of sin or guilt as if they are mistaken or even mentally ill for admitting to such a thing.
About a year ago, I went to confession, and after stating one or two sins, as I paused to collect my thoughts, suddenly found myself being given absolution and shoveled out the door of the confessional. I was so shocked, I did leave, and immediately went and found the rector, and asked for another confession, explaining that I hadn't finished, hadn't been actually listened to, and didn't feel that I merited absolution until I could actually complete my ENTIRE confession - he acquiesced, and then tried to tell me that "some of the older priests don't hear all that well". Trust me, the man wasn't hard of hearing he just apparently thought that 1 or 2 things, and I was all done. He didn't wait for me to say, "for these and all my sins I am truly sorry" he just assumed I wasn't going to do a particularly in-depth examination of conscience, didn't try to help me examine my conscience, just shoveled me out the door
The second priest, on the other hand, did listen, and then, rather than offering pop-psychology, talked about grace, and allowing Divine Mercy to work in my life, and actually gave spiritual direction!
Recently, I went to a priest who is well-known for his conservative homilies. He is a very dear man, who reaches out to many in his parish. Yet, in sharing with him my dismay at having repeatedly failing to avoid sin, and thus "injuring Christ", he looked at me like I was crazy. I told him I remembered the story of one of the children at Fatima, Francisco, and he was so touched by the thought that every sin wounded Christ, that he resolved not only do his best to never fall into sin again, but to do "sacrifices", in reparation for the sins of the world - he said he wanted to comfort Jesus. I told this priest that I really wanted to do this - that I wanted to live my life this way, and it was painful to me that I couldn't do better. He asked me if I was seeing someone for my "depression".
The Holy Father is urging the priests of the church to "celebrate" the Sacrament of Penance, to assist with "adequate formation" of conscience, so that they can "foster in the faithful the experience of spiritual support".
I know that in many parishes Confession are offered in a desultory fashion, one tiny window of time per week, or "by appointment" - that no one ever makes. And lines are short, even in large parishes. In parishes where the sacrament is offered more frequently, or even multiple times per day, the people come in droves, and the lines are long.
It's hard, in this day and age of "self-help-ism" and "fix-it-ism" to actually find a priest who is willing to sit back and actually be a spiritual director, instead of trying to be a psychologist. When I talk to my friends, we tend to agree when we go to confession, we aren't looking for a psychiatrist we are looking for God. We are looking for spiritual direction, not cognitive therapy! And we all tend to feel that the parishes where we have the best experiences with Confession are not only offering the sacrament more frequently, but are offering less Stephen Covey and Wayne Dyer and more Christ, scripture, and saints.
I am praying, that these "wise and holy spiritual teachers" that the Holy Father is looking for will be brought forward by the Holy Spirit, to bring a renewed love of the Sacrament of Penance into the Church - not in a spirit of pain and guilt and, in the language of Woodstock, a drag and a bummer - but in the spirit of hope. For it is in recognizing where we've fallen down that we can pick ourselves up and start all over again - this is what Reconciliation is all about. It is not a laundry list of "bad", but a paean of joy, celebrating the Divine Mercy of the Lord, as we reach out for His hand!
Quotes from the Holy Father taken from:
http://www.zenit.org/article-26685?l=english
A Circle of Quiet
Using your imagination and creativity to "think yourself well"
When my son was a very little boy, maybe four years old, and he would get a headache, I would have him lie down, and put a cool cloth on his head, and tell him to close his eyes. Then we would play our "river game" to make the headache go away, and he would "think himself well".
I would tell him to take long, slow deep breaths, and let his toes relax, and let his legs relax, and breath in, and breath out, and let his whole body relax… one by one, moving up his body, we'd "tell" all his muscles to relax, and in a minute or so, he'd be as limp as a noodle.
Then, lying there quietly, I would tell him to imagine a cool stream of water, clean, and clear, and sparkling; icy cold, and running over little rocks, and under shady trees – and imagine it flowing though his body – through the center of his forehead, across and through his whole head, and down and out the back of his head – washing his pain away, washing his pain away, washing his pain away. I'd speak softly, gently, slowly…. Sometimes he lay with his head in my lap. Sometimes he'd get sleepy. But in just a minute or two he would always tell me that he felt better, that his head felt "cooler", and many times the pain was gone completely.
This is what psychologists call "visualization" – I just call it using your imagination, creativity, and the gifts God gave you – to help yourself relax and feel better. This was a very simple one – he could imagine the river because we lived near a river, and we'd walked by the river, and thrown stones in the river, and he'd gone fishing in the river, and he knew the river well. The idea of the cold, clear water washing his pain away was simple for him to imagine. And that's the way it works best. Put yourself in a setting you know well, and is comfortable for you, and then imagine yourself feeling better. You are essentially thinking yourself well!
We can use many different simple "visualizations" to help ourselves relax and feel better; here is another one, that author Madeleine L'Engle actually does when she's a bit stressed – but she writes about it so vividly and so beautifully, that I thought I'd share it, as a lovely example of using the the power of your creativity and your imagination to take a five minute "vacation" and mentally take yourself to your own safe, quiet place.
Your "circle of quiet" will probably be very different than Madeleine's, when you try this exercise yourself. With practice you can do this any time, any place, for a brief but relaxing moment all to yourself, but when you first start you may find it helpful to lie down on your bed, slow your breathing, close your eyes, and spend about 5 minutes in your own, special "circle of quiet".
Build it in your imagination, like the author does when she shares her special place with the reader. See the colors, the sky, and the plants. Hear the wind whispering. The birds chirping. Make it as real as you can, all the while breathing deeply and slowly – and soon you will find your whole body feels more relaxed and your mind feels less tense and anxious.
Every so often I need OUT; something will throw me into total disproportion, and I have to get away from everybody – away from all these people I love most in the world – in order to regain a sense of proportion.
I like hanging out the sheets on lines strung under the apple trees – the birds like it, too. I enjoy going out to the incinerator after dark, and watching all the flames; my bad feeling burn away with the trash. But the house is still visible, and I can hear the sounds from within; often I need to get away completely, if only for a few minutes. My special place is a small brook in a green glade, a circle of quiet from which there is no visible sign of human beings. There's a natural stone bridge over the brook, and I sit there, dangling my legs and looking through the foliage at the sky reflected in the water, and things slowly come back into perspective. If the insects are biting me – and they usually are; no place is perfect – I use the pliable branch of a willow tree as a fan. The brook wanders through a tunnel of foliage, and the birds sing more sweetly there than anywhere else; or perhaps it is just that when I am at the brook I have time to be aware of them, and I move slowly into a kind of peace that is marvelous, "annihilating all that's made to a green thought in a green shade." If I sit for a while, then my impatience, crossness, frustration, are indeed annihilated, and my sense of humor returns.
It's a full ten-minute walk to the brook. I cross the lawn and go through the willow tree which splashes its fountain of green down onto the grass so that it's almost impossible to mow around it. If it's raining and I really need the brook badly, I go in my grandfather's old leather hunting coat and a strange yellow knitted hat from
After the pasture is traversed, I walk through a smaller pasture, which has been let go to seed because of all the rocks, and is now filled with thistles. Then there is a stone wall to be climbed; the only poison ivy around here grows on and by the stones of this wall, and I'm trying to kill it by smothering it with wet Sunday Timeses; my children have made me very aware of the danger of using chemical sprays…. I think the poison ivy is less flourishing than it was; at any rate, The New York Times is not going to unbalance the ecology. I love the ology words; olog: the word about. Eco, man's dwelling place. The word about where man lives.
Once I'm over the stone wall, the terrain changes. I step into a large field full of rocks left over from glacial deposits; there are many ancient apple trees, which, this summer, are laden with fruit. From the stone wall to the brook… takes me across a high ridge where there are large outcroppings of glacial stone, including our special star-watching rock. Then the path becomes full of tussocks and hummocks; blackberry brambles and wild roses. Earlier this summer the laurel burst from the snow into fire, and a few weeks later we found a field of sweet wild strawberries. And then there are the blueberry bushes, not very many, but a few, taller than I am, and to me, infinitely beautiful.
The burning bush; somehow I visualize it as much like one of these blueberry bushes. The bush burned, was alive with flame, and was not consumed. Why? Isn't it because as a bush, it was perfect? It was exactly as a bush is meant to be. A bush certainly doesn't have the opportunity for prideful and selfish choices, for self-destruction, that we human beings do. It is. It is a pure example of ontology. Ontology is one of my favorite words this summer. Ontology: the word about the essence of things, the word about being.
I go to the brook because I get out of being, out of the essential. So, I'm not like the bush, I put all my prickliness, selfishness, inturnedness, onto my is-ness; we all tend to, and when we burn, this part of us is consumed. When I go past the tallest blueberry bush, I think that the part of us that has to be burned away is something like the deadwood on the bush; it has to go, to be burned in the terrible fire of reality, until there is nothing left but our ontological selves; what we are meant to be.
I go to the brook, and my tensions, and frustrations are lost as I spend a happy hour sitting right by the water, and trying to clear it of the clogging debris left by a fallen tree.
From:
Harper and Row Publishers, 1972 pp 4 – 6
Labels: catholic, Divine Mercy, love, marian, saint
Last summer, EWTN talk show host, Rosalind Moss, announced that she is starting a new community of sisters in the Archdiocese of St. Louis with the permission of Archbishop Raymond L. Burke.
For those that aren’t familiar with her, Rosalind Moss was raised as a child as a conservative Jew, before converting to Christianity as an adult. She spent 18 years as an evangelical Protestant before becoming a Catholic in 1995.It’s truly exciting to find out that Sr. Rosalind is taking the next year to develop her vocation with the Salesians up here in Massachusetts with The Sisters Of the Visitation of Tyringham. The sisters at Tyringham are cloistered, contemplative group of religious – and Sr. Rosalind has stated that her new order will have much of this component – but she has also said that her order will also have much of the same charism as that of St. Francis de Sales, St. Jane de Chantal, and St. John Bosco had – to get out there, into the community, where the people are, and minister to them “where they’re at”. One of her other stated goals is to design a “head to toe” habit – she feels that it “preaches and teaches” without saying a word.
If the recent experience of some young Franciscan friars is any lesson, she’s right. And then again, St. Francis de Sales was very fond of the spirituality of St. Francis of Assisi, and used many examples of his teachings and sayings in his sermons! I would guess that Sr. Rosalind too has heard St. Francis’ oft quoted saying, “Preach the Gospel at all times, and if necessary, use words!”
God bless!
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