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Thursday, May 15, 2008
Spirituality and Sacraments of Mercy in Pastoral Care
I attended a two-day conference in Worcester at Holy Cross College. I'd like to share my notes with you, each in separate postings.

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4th Annual Heathcare Professionals
for Divine Mercy Conference
Medicine, Bioethics and Spirituality
April 29th & 30th 2008 – Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA
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Fr Kazimirerz Chwalek, MIC, BA, STB, STL (Cand.); Marian, Director of Evangelization and Development; Spirituality and Sacraments of Mercy in Pastoral Care

What does Mercy Mean?

Mercy is rooted in Scripture. It is an attitude, a concept. We see it described in the images, parables and events of Scripture.

In the Old Testament: The Hebrew words most often used to describe the Mercy of God are “Hesed” & “Rahamim

Hesed = A profound attitude of “goodness” – two individuals do not just wish each other “well” when this word is used, they are utterly faithful and committed to each other by virtue of an interior commitment and faithfulness to themselves. They become deeply caring – it is a covenantal relationship. Hesed is also used to connote grace or love on the basis of fidelity. When hesed is used with the Lord – it is in reference to the covenant of the Lord with Israel – God’s gift to Israel. When Israel broke the Covenant the hesed ceased to be a “legal” obligation – God showed his grace and love by granting the people Mercy that He wasn’t “required” to show them by “obligation” – only by virtue of His love for them. Hope is then based on Love, not Law. Hope is then based on Fidelity, not Justice. God is utterly all of these attributes – but His Mercy is an endless ocean.

Rahamim = Love, as of a mother – a love completely gratuitous – goodness, tenderness, total readiness to forgive at all times. God as ready to forgive – Always – “Even those may forget, yet I will never forget you.” Is 49:15


Love – faithful, invincible – as a mother – salvation from danger.
Mercy – tender – faithful – which in contact with the evil that the loved one often commits = mercy
Predisposition to be generous, gracious, bestow blessings, gentle, forgiving, constant

Culture impacts the person:

Addictions, pain, depression, despair. Divine Mercy offers hope. We think that what we are doing is small – but prayer and offering our every effort to God can be huge.

New Testament:

Prayers – Zachariah praises God’s mercy, Mary’s Magnificat. The Parable of the Prodigal Son – this is the epitome of the meaning of the Divine Mercy. The child has broken the covenant of love in every way – lost every grace – indulged in every sin – and yet, the Father is faithful in love, in mercy. Hesesed – faithful to their loving relationship. Rahamim – charged with deep and abiding affection. This story reaches down to every human misery, moral depravity, and sin. The person who is the object of this kind of mercy feels “found” again, and “restored to value”. He has not received Justice, but unending Mercy. The brother demanded justice – he was angry – he wanted everything to be “fair”. But Mercy knows only Love. Love knows only Mercy.

Other stories – the Lost Sheep; the Woman Caught in Adultery, the Good Thief

Mercy – in the New Testament – restores value, promotes and draws good from all the forms of evil existing in the world, and in man. Mercy constitutes the fundamental content of the Messianic message of Christ and the constitutive power of His mission. Forgiveness and Eternal life are offered to all, and the Eucharist as Living Presence is His gift – the Bread of Heaven.

Imitation of Christ

The heart of Christian spirituality is living out our faith every day, in imitation of Christ. We can be instruments of healing or of hurting. If we show our pain, our suffering, our anger – what happens? Jesus took all that onto Himself – in the Garden, during the Scourging, during His humiliation by the guards, during His carrying of the Cross, He took all they heaped upon Him without a word. And when they nailed Him to the Cross, He forgave them – asked the Father to have Mercy on His abusers. Embrace, absorb, place before our Crucified Lord all the junk people throw our way – fear, anger, stress, depression – all the junk – lay it down at the foot of the Cross.

Be Merciful – as your Heavenly Father is Merciful. Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy. If we pass our suffering along to the Lord, it cannot poison us, or cause us to “explode”. It calms us, sooths us, grants us grace and peace. Look also to Mary, Mother of Mercy – she who had total trust and obedience.

Spiritual progress tends toward ever more intimate union with Christ. This union is called “mystical” because it participates in the mystery of Christ through the Sacraments – “the Holy Mysteries” and in Him, in the Mystery of the Holy Trinity, God calls us all to this intimate union with him even if the special graces or extraordinary signs of this mystical life are granted only to some for the sake of manifesting the gratuitous gift given to all.

We are always forgiven when we ask to be freed. God stands ready and waiting for us. We have only to ask.

Trust is a key element in the Divine Mercy.

“I have opened My heart as a living fountain of Mercy. Let them approach this sea of Mercy with great trust.” Diary 1520

“Let souls who are striving for perfection particularly adore My mercy, because the abundance of graces which I grant them flows from My mercy. I desire that these souls distinguish themselves by boundless trust in My mercy. I myself will attend to the sanctification of such souls. I will provide them with everything they will need to attain sanctity. The graces of My mercy are drawn by means of one vessel only, and that is-trust. The more a soul trusts, the more it will receive. Souls that trust boundlessly are a great comfort to Me, because I pour all the treasures of My graces into them. I rejoice that they ask for much, because it is My desire to give much, very much. On the other hand, I am sad when souls ask for little, when they narrow their hearts." Diary 1578

Today the Lord said to me, “My daughter, My pleasure and delight, nothing will stop Me from granting you graces. Your misery does not hinder My mercy. My daughter, write that the greater the misery of a soul, the greater it’s right to My mercy; [urge] all souls to trust in the unfathomable abyss of My mercy, because I want to save them all. On the cross, the fountain of My mercy was opened wide by the lance for all souls-no one have I excluded!” Diary 1182

Openness to the living presence of God leads to the Gifts of the Holy Spirit, which leads to Joy.

How do we obtain this – corporal acts of Mercy – “that which we do to the least of our brothers….”

Proclaim and receive God’s Mercy through:

•Liturgy & Prayer
•Sacraments – especially Penance, Eucharist, and Anointing of the Sick (the Sacraments of Mercy)

So many suffer because of coldness and indifference – so much more than physical pain. Bitterness in their lives. Your presence – OUR presence – may be the only light of Mercy they receive. Your chaplet may be the ONLY one ever prayed for them.

Jesus said, “I am Love and Mercy itself”

“My Mercy is greater than the sins of the entire world”

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Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Divine Mercy - Patient Requests in Conflict with the Hippocratic Oath and the Magisterium
Last week I attended a two-day conference in Worcester at Holy Cross College. I'd like to share my notes with you, each in separate postings.

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4th Annual Heathcare Professionals for Divine Mercy Conference
Medicine, Bioethics and Spirituality
April 29th & 30th 2008 – Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA
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Dr. Helen Jackson – OBGYN, St. Elizabeth’s Hospital, Boston – Doctor’s for Divine Mercy, USA Director, President, St. Luke’s Guild, Boston, MA – Patient Requests in Conflict with the Hippocratic Oath and the Magisterium


The Hippocratic Oath
(Modern Version)

I SWEAR in the presence of the Almighty and before my family, my teachers and my peers that according to my ability and judgment I will keep this Oath and Stipulation.

TO RECKON all who have taught me this art equally dear to me as my parents and in the same spirit and dedication to impart a knowledge of the art of medicine to others. I will continue with diligence to keep abreast of advances in medicine. I will treat without exception all who seek my ministrations, so long as the treatment of others is not compromised thereby, and I will seek the counsel of particularly skilled physicians where indicated for the benefit of my patient.

I WILL FOLLOW that method of treatment which according to my ability and judgment, I consider for the benefit of my patient and abstain from whatever is harmful or mischievous. I will neither prescribe nor administer a lethal dose of medicine to any patient even if asked nor counsel any such thing nor perform the utmost respect for every human life from fertilization to natural death and reject abortion that deliberately takes a unique human life.

WITH PURITY, HOLINESS AND BENEFICENCE I will pass my life and practice my art. Except for the prudent correction of an imminent danger, I will neither treat any patient nor carry out any research on any human being without the valid informed consent of the subject or the appropriate legal protector thereof, understanding that research must have as its purpose the furtherance of the health of that individual. Into whatever patient setting I enter, I will go for the benefit of the sick and will abstain from every voluntary act of mischief or corruption and further from the seduction of any patient.

WHATEVER IN CONNECTION with my professional practice or not in connection with it I may see or hear in the lives of my patients which ought not be spoken abroad, I will not divulge, reckoning that all such should be kept secret.


WHILE I CONTINUE to keep this Oath inviolate may it be granted to me to enjoy life and the practice of the art and science of medicine with the blessing of the Almighty and respected by my peers and society, but should I trespass and violate this Oath, may the reverse by my lot.

Know Our Subject

Our words and actions reflect who we are. Prayer is essential. We need to begin and end the day with prayer. It is the way we need to ground ourselves. We hold lives in our hands. How can we not start with prayer? It is essential to face the challenges of the day on our knees.

Humanae VitaeEncyclical Letter of Pope Paul VI, 1968 – changed everything. “Let your conscience be your guide” no longer meant the same thing. “INFORMED” conscience – had to start actually upholding the Hippocratic Oath, follow the Magisterium - as written. So, what do you do, when modern technology, modern media, etc. is screaming to do different things?

  • Don’t guess – ask questions – really find out what they want to do. Don’t judge.
  • Offer as much information to the patient as possible – help guide them to as fully an informed decision as possible
  • Support them as much as possible
  • Even in a “crisis” situation – attempt to teach them that at “crisis” moments there can be moments of real grace possible – families can come together, support each other through things they never thought possible.
  • In the end, if they insist on a procedure that you know is unethical – you may have to simply tell them “I can not in good conscience do that” – and they will have to go elsewhere. You are allowed to do this, under law.

The formation of one’s spiritual life is essential to face the tasks that come our way.

Mother Teresa

“Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.”

“Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.”

“Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person.”

“Each one of them is Jesus in disguise.”

“Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”

“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.”

“In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love.”

“Let us touch the dying, the poor, the lonely and the unwanted according to the graces we have received and let us not be ashamed or slow to do the humble work.”

“Many people mistake our work for our vocation. Our vocation is the love of Jesus.”

“Our life of poverty is as necessary as the work itself. Only in heaven will we see how much we owe to the poor for helping us to love God better because of them.”

“The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted.”

“There is more hunger in the world for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.”

“We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature - trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence... We need silence to be able to touch souls.”

“We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.”

Friday, May 09, 2008
The Divine Mercy Message and Healing
Last week I attended a two-day conference in Worcester at Holy Cross College. I'd like to share my notes with you, each in separate postings.

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4th Annual Heathcare Professionals for Divine Mercy Conference
Medicine, Bioethics and Spirituality

April 29th & 30th 2008 – Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA
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Fr. Seraphim Michaelenko, MIC, PhB, STL, SEOL, Marian, Vice Postulator of North America for St. Faustina – The Divine Mercy Message and Healing


Faustina always said she had a distinct sense of both awe and joy when she had her visions.

Saint Faustina wrote:

"Today during meditation, God gave me inner light and understanding as to what sanctity is and of what it consists ... Neither graces, nor revelations, nor raptures, nor gifts granted to a soul make it perfect, but rather the intimate union of the soul with God ... My sanctity and perfection consists in the close union of my will with the will of God" (Diary, 1107).

And on another occasion, she wrote:

"My Jesus, penetrate me through and through so that I might be able to reflect You in my whole life. Divinize me so that my deeds may have supernatural value. Grant that I may have love, compassion and mercy for every soul without exception. O my Jesus, each of Your saints reflects one of Your virtues; I desire to reflect Your compassionate heart, full of mercy; I want to glorify it. Let Your mercy, O Jesus, be impressed upon my heart and soul like a seal, and this will be my badge in this and the future life. Glorifying Your mercy is the exclusive task of my life" (Diary, 1242).

In St. Faustina's Diary, Jesus said,
"When a soul approaches Me with trust, I fill it with such an abundance of graces that it cannot contain them within itself, but radiates them to other souls" (1074).

The mission the Lord gave her was not only to remind the world of the great mercy of God as revealed in Sacred Scripture, but also to teach us new forms of devotion to The Divine Mercy and to initiate a movement of apostles of The Divine Mercy who show a childlike trust in God and love of neighbor.

Reality Check - Jesus, who is God, is also Reality itself. Here is a Reality check:

  1. We will all die soon enough.
  2. We will be in either Heaven or hell, forever. For ever. (For ever and ever and ever...)
  3. Please take some time to think about "forever" if you have not already done so. Think about being somewhere for 1500 years, 40 billion years, 40 billion billion billion years... Please think seriously about this reality.
  4. This mortal life is absolutely nothing compared with forever. So then, how much of ourselves should we devote to eternity?
  5. All of it. Devote your entire being to getting yourself and others into Heaven.
  6. Now.... DON'T WORRY!

You can heal souls. Give out Divine Mercy prayer cards. Wear the Divine Mercy pin. Patient’s will see it, and ask questions. You will become open to discussion – this is a life saving – ETERNAL LIFE SAVING – teaching. Teach them the promises of Our Lord to heal and restore their souls. Just like the image Our Lord asked Faustina to have painted, of the blood and water - pouring from His heart - blood standing for the Eucharist, "water" standing for the water of Baptism - just as this is a healing, sacramental image, this is a healing sacramental devotion, that points us towards Christ. It is also a scriptureal devotion. Just as the blood of the Lamb covered the doorways of the Israelites in Egypt, protecting them from the Angel of Wrath, Jesus' blood pours out over us, and He stands in the doorway, and His ocean of Mercy protects us, even at the moment of our death, when the Divine Justice of God should fall down on us.

Jesus said to St. Faustina: "I desire trust from My creatures. Encourage souls to place great trust in My fathomless mercy. Let the weak, sinful soul have no fear to approach Me, for even if it had more sins than there are grains of sand in the world, all would be drowned in the unmeasurable depths of My mercy. (Diary, 1059)"

http://www.stjames-church.com/notebookpreface.html
(Complete text of St. Faustina’s Diary available online)

Divine Mercy - Healing in Mercy

Last week I attended a two-day conference in Worcester at Holy Cross College. I'd like to share my notes with you, each in separate postings.
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4th Annual Heathcare Professionals for Divine Mercy Conference
Medicine, Bioethics and Spirituality
April 29th & 30th 2008 – Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA

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Mark Tuttle: Catastrophic Injury: Healing in Mercy

Survivor of a catastrophic injury – lost a leg – hospitalized for months – almost didn’t survive the accident

  • SUPPORT – is so important – little kindnesses – the kind that the person doing them probably barely notices – are SO important.

  • People need others to care – to PRAY for them – pray by the bedside – pray as you walk the hallways – pray in your car – pray everywhere - he had people praying for him that he barely knew – and all the prayers encouraged HIM to keep praying – not only does he feel that the prayers helped him heal – they helped him hang onto hope.

  • DO the things you want to do. You can’t wait for the “right time” – you never know what is going to happen tomorrow and what will come next – or if tomorrow will even come. Be ready for there to be NO tomorrow – or for tomorrow to look COMPLETELY different. DON’T go through life like a zombie, expecting every day to be the same. It won’t be.

  • Just “being there” is so important. You don’t have to say anything – just sitting and “being” is so helpful

  • Sharing is SO important – be human – don’t be afraid to share your faith – you have NO idea who will LOVE what you have to give – and miracles may happen in their life because of something you share with them.

  • Always ask if they know about Divine Mercy teach them if they don’t know
Divine Mercy - Bioethics - The Use of Terminal Sedation
Last week I attended a two-day conference in Worcester at Holy Cross College. I'd like to share my notes with you, each in separate postings.

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4th Annual Heathcare Professionals for Divine Mercy Conference
Medicine, Bioethics and Spirituality
April 29th & 30th 2008 – Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA
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Fr. Germain Kopaczynski, OFM, Conv., Ph.D, S.T.D. – Catholic Boiethicist, Former Director of Education, National Catholic Bioethics Center – The Use of Terminal Sedation

From St. Francis of Assisi’s prayer “Serve the Lord”

All praise be yours, my Lord, through those who grant pardon
For love of you; through
those who endure
Sickness and trial.
Happy those who endure in peace,

By you, Most High, they will be crowned.
All praise be yours, my Lord,
through Sister Death,
From whose embrace no mortal can escape.
Woe to those who die in mortal sin!
Happy those She finds doing your will!
The second death can do no harm to them.
Praise and bless my Lord, and give him thanks,
And serve him with great humility.


St. Francis recognized that illness, suffering, and death were part of life. That we were all fallen from perfection – and that the real fear was the “second death” – dying in mortal sin.

USCCB – Ethical and Religious Directives for Catholic Healthcare Services - http://www.usccb.org/bishops/directives.shtml

  • The free and INFORMED judgment made by a COMPETENT adult patient should always be respected – UNLESS it goes against Catholic teaching. i.e. Euthanasia, suicide, “emergency” artificial birth control, sterilization, abortion
  • Euthanasia – an action or omission that by itself or by it’s intent causes death
  • Vs. Loving care, Psychological & Spiritual support, appropriate remedies for pain and symptoms so the patient can live with dignity until they die.
  • GO FOR SPEECH – always keep in mind – will this treatment allow the patient to remain able to express their will? – They should not be completely deprived of consciousness, just because it makes us uncomfortable – there should be a COMEPELLING reason for inducing unconsciousness for any length of time
  • Pain medications, even if they will shorten life, are OK as long as the INTENT is not to hasten death

The world forgets the POWER of Redemptive Suffering – suffering that cannot be alleviated should be taught – the Christian (Catholic) perspective of the massive spiritual benefits of suffering - By the sufferings in His human nature during His Passion on the Cross, by which mankind was redeemed, Christ gave to all the suffering experienced by humanity – that is by the members of His Mystical Body - a redeeming power when accepted and offered up in union with His Passion. As Pope John Paul II wrote: "In bringing about the Redemption through suffering, Christ raised human suffering to the level of the Redemption. Thus each man, in his sufferings, can also become a sharer in the redemptive suffering of Christ" (Salvifici Doloris).

Thus, in His immense mercy, He gives to human suffering a supernatural value. St. Paul was so filled with the idea of the redemptive power of suffering that he exclaimed: "I find joy in the sufferings I endure for you. In my own flesh I fill up what is lacking in the sufferings of Christ for the sake of His Body, the Church" (Col. 1:24). What St. Paul is saying that it is in the members of His Body that something is lacking (not in Christ - in us!). There is no grace that comes to any human that was not merited by Him. He had no need of any other in redeeming the human race. But Jesus willed that the mystery of His Passion continue on in us, so that we may be joined with Him in the work of redemption.

In carrying out the work of redemption Christ wishes to be helped by the members of His Body. (us!) This is a great gift, given to us, to be able to cooperate with this great grace, and to join our sufferings and even our daily indignities with those of Christ on the Cross.

The Cross was the instrument chosen by God for the redemption of mankind. That is why Our Savior refers to the hardships and fatigue and trials of daily life as the "crosses" that we must embrace if we are to be His disciples. Accepting them in union with the Passion of Christ gives them a redeeming power, a redeeming value, a share in the fruits of His Passion. The "cross" can include everything that goes against the grain, and that can be an endless list. To mention a few examples: physical pain, mental anguish, disappointments, depression, humiliations, delays, sickness, poverty, set-backs in business, loneliness, being misunderstood or falsely accused, hardships and fatigue of daily routine, sadness at death of family member or friend, the difficult sacrifices in fulfilling God’s commandments and the duties in our state in life, etc. All these entail suffering, and are part of the penalty of sin of our fallen nature.

We naturally try to eliminate all forms of suffering from our life, but insofar as they are beyond our power to control, they are part of God’s providence. God foresees them, allows them, and can bring good out of them if we trust in Him. Suffering in some form or other is the lot of every human, saint as well as sinner. But since our attitude toward them can make them profitable or unprofitable (even increase our misery), it is important to see them in the light of the Gospel, in the light of God’s providence. That is because suffering can get one down, or it can bring one closer to God. It can make one resentful and bitter - even blaming God for his lot, or it can make one more conscious of God’s providence at work. It can make one turn in on himself in self-pity, or it can help one to open out upon the world in apostolic and redemptive action.

That suffering is not something good in itself, is clear from the great number of Christian institutions (hospitals, sanitariums, etc.) established to alleviate human suffering. While the ills and hardships and setbacks of life can be instrumental in spiritual growth, in themselves they are something evil. Christians are not forbidden to seek the comforts of life, or to enjoy lawful amusements, or to seek remedies from pain. The Church does not glorify suffering for its own sake; but it does glorify God by the loving acceptance of suffering when the fulfillment of His will entails it.

In spite of Jesus’ willing acceptance of the Passion, and His insistence that His followers must embrace the "crosses" of life, His human nature shrank from pain just as ours does. We see that in the Garden of Gethsemane; yet He willingly accepted it when commanded by His heavenly Father. "I seek not my own will, but the will of Him who sent Me" (Jn.5:30). The same should be the goal of His followers. Those sincerely seeking to grow closer to Christ know that it must be by way of the cross. Each day brings many little opportunities to submit willingly to various kinds of self-giving that go against the grain. Like Christ, we too can pray in certain painful situations, "let this chalice pass from me" as long as we are willing to add "nevertheless, not my will but yours be done" (Lk. 22:42).

Life is a Gift: CCC2280 http://www.scborromeo.org/ccc/p3s2c2a5.htm

Taking one’s own life or assisting a person to take their own life is self-murder. From the Catechism of the Catholic Church CCC-2280: Everyone is responsible for his life before God who has given it to him. It is God who remains the sovereign Master of life. We are obliged to accept life gratefully and preserve it for his honor and the salvation of our souls. We are stewards, not owners, of the life God has entrusted to us. It is not ours to dispose of.


Suffering at the Moment of Death

We all want to alleviate suffering. Need to balance Prudence and alleviation of pain with allowing grace to work in the person’s final moments. Being aware of the moment of death can have a special place in God’s plan of salvation for the person. If the person is too drugged out to know what’s happening, we can steal that moment away from them.

The person is not obliged to be a “hero” – they may (of course) forgo any extraordinary means of preserving life – if there is no reasonable hope of benefit, or it imposes an excessive burden or expense or the family or the group they are living with (such as a religious community). Or will discontinuing the technology really be euthanasia or “slow suicide” – watch for the “death mentality”.

“The intrinsic value and personal dignity of every human being does not change – no matter what their concrete circumstances” Pope John Paul II

On Euthanasia

CCC-2278, 2279: Discontinuing medical procedures that are burdensome, dangerous, extraordinary, or disproportionate to the expected outcome can be legitimate; it is the refusal of "over-zealous" treatment. Here one does not will to cause death; one's inability to impede it is merely accepted. The decisions should be made by the patient if he is competent and able or, if not, by those legally entitled to act for the patient, whose reasonable will and legitimate interests must always be respected. Even if death is thought imminent, the ordinary care owed to a sick person cannot be legitimately interrupted. The use of painkillers to alleviate the sufferings of the dying, even at the risk of shortening their days, can be morally in conformity with human dignity if death is not willed as either an end or a means, but only foreseen and tolerated as inevitable Palliative care is a special form of disinterested charity. As such it should be encouraged.

The true task of medicine is to cure if possible – always to care.
~ Pope John Paul II, 2004

Divine Mercy – Walking the Spiritual Journey with your Cancer Patient
Last week I attended a two-day conference in Worcester at Holy Cross College. I'd like to share my notes with you, each in separate postings.

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4th Annual Heathcare Professionals for Divine Mercy Conference
Medicine, Bioethics and Spirituality
April 29th & 30th 2008 – Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA

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Marie Romagnano, RN, BSN, CRC, CCM, CLCP, founder Healthcare Professionals for Divine Mercy – Walking the Spiritual Journey with your Cancer Patient

Case study of cancer patients – what can we learn from their suffering? What can their suffering teach us? What can the suffering of their loved ones teach us?

We tend to turn away from suffering. Our entire profession is geared to alleviating suffering, so many times we turn a blind eye to the lessons that those who are suffering – our patients and their loved ones – can teach us. But many times our best “teachers” are exactly those patients and their loved ones – if we have the eyes to see, the ears to hear – the open minds and hearts.

We can speak – He could not

Fr. Mark – cancer patient with tongue cancer – he could not speak due to surgery – he could not speak – yet his actions spoke louder than any words. He caused conversions, spiritual awakenings – he “offered up” his sufferings.

Share your life if not with words, then with actions - this patient shared his life every moment of every day – with joy – with others all around him. Even when he’d be expected to be in pain, he had a smile for every one. When expected to have an “8” or “9” for pain, he’d say he was a “2” or a “3”, because he was “offering up” his suffering. He was trying to be supportive of the people around him.

Make the environment as comfortable for your patients as possible

  • Offer support – preach the Gospel at all times – when necessary, use words (St. Francis)
  • Pray as you walk into the room.
  • Personalize your care for each patient’s needs.
  • USE the assistance of the patient’s family and friends (train them if you need to) – the patient will feel immeasurably more comfortable if even some of his care can be given by friends or family – with loving hands
  • Lean on the grace of God
  • Have confidence and acceptance of God’s will in the patient’s life – be calm “pray, hope, don’t worry”

Path to Holiness:

The path of the Patient – Path of the Provider: it is our job to take this work with us and become the Merciful Presence of the Lord in their lives. Offer support, offer an environment where the patient, family, and friends can pray, meditate, offer up their suffering – know God in whatever way they can. The Patient can be an incredible example of courage and grace to each of us.

We can be “living tabernacles” for our patients – bringing them Jesus every day, by everything that we do and say.

Divine Mercy - Medical Challenges and Spiritual Considerations in the Treatment of Patients with Cancer
Last week I attended a two-day conference in Worcester at Holy Cross College. I'd like to share my notes with you, each in separate postings.
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4th Annual Heathcare Professionals for Divine Mercy Conference
Medicine, Bioethics and Spirituality

April 29th & 30th 2008 – Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA
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April 29th

John Clark MD – Clinical Director, Center for Head and Neck Cancers, Mass General Hospital, Boston – Medical Challenges and Spiritual Considerations in the Treatment of Patients with Cancer

We are in relationships with people – but they are relationships created by illness, by sorrow, by pain. We are bonded by the stories they tell us. We are brought together – could it be by divine intervention?

CAN I BE SPIRITUAL IN MEDICINE?

  • “Spiritual” needs may be small/mild/low if the medical need or treatment need is mild, minimal, or acute or reasonably simple. Offer simple reassurance, respect, hope. Live your faith – see the face of Christ in every patient.
  • Spiritual needs may be quite high if treatment needs are severe, chronic, or even incurable
  • Offer support, respect, hope, insight
  • Be patient specific, even offer your own life experiences.
  • Build patient trust in the medical system (since that’s where you are meeting them)
  • Work within their faith structure – but be aware that it may be different than yours – but it’s ok to ask for respect for your own faith as well. Most will typically accept that.
  • It’s a journey not a “process”
  • Spiritual needs will often increase as treatment needs decrease as illness progresses – because pt morbidity increases and palliative care increases
  • By the time the patient is concerned primarily with end of life issues, they will be nearly 100% concerned with supportive care issues and spiritual care issue, while medical care issues may actually be very minimally an issue for concern.
  • Priority is always the patient with the illness NOT the illness itself

When surveyed, patients stated that almost 70% were “highly” religious, and of those, 89% were African American, and 79% were Hispanic; yet 72% the patients surveyed stated that their religious needs were not met at all by the medical team. Yet, studies found that those who utilized some form of religion or spirituality in their life and in their care had a higher quality of life, overall.

Providers must:

  • seek opportunities to identify and support spiritual needs
  • enhance quality of life, healing, and wholeness
  • respect patient boundaries and autonomy
  • provider patience and understanding will facilitate proper decision making when time is right

Patient’s fear things

  • fear is universal
  • Hopelessness and depression regarding illnesses, misfortune are common
  • If we are not ill, we know someone who is
  • We fear loss – loss of independence, work, finances, life
  • We fear isolation – from family, friends, community
  • We fear dependency – on family, friends, or paid care providers
  • We fear that the treatment might not work

We tend not to see that Crisis can be linked to Opportunity

Crisis can often give us a chance to redefine our priorities – but we seldom see this. We are too fearful, anxious, worried about what tomorrow will bring. We set the limits and the boundaries, based on all the fears our imagination can stir up – and we can’t conceive that there might be any blessings inside the clouds we see blocking our way.

We want what we want – and if we can’t have it – it’s a –disaster. Yet – sometimes we are forced to slow down – and in this forced interim, we can redefine our life’s priorities, our marriages priorities, our parenting priorities, sometimes dysfunction from gambling and addiction ends, or we reach out to others from whom we have been estranged. We have a choice. We need to focus – we need to contemplate. Suffering can have meaning.

Spirituality in Medicine

After the rise of Science – via Copernicus and Darwin – spirituality was equated with “superstition” in the minds of many. A view of the universe as created was rejected. The world was “random” and “chaotic” – the scientist who said otherwise was ridiculed - and the training of any sort of spiritual skills in the medical practitioner was left to chance or the choice of the individual practitioner. This despite the research of Gregor Mendal, the Catholic monk who was the pioneer of genetic science, and Georges Lemaitre, Catholic priest and “father” of what came to be called “the Big Bang Theory” of the origins of the universe.

- Francis S. Collins, M.D., Ph.D., is a physician-geneticist and the Director of the National Human Genome Research Institute, NIH – a man who cannot be called anything but a serious scientist – who wrote - "The Language of God: A Scientist Presents Evidence for Belief” in 2006 - and stated - "DNA sequence alone, even if accompanied by a vast trove of data on biological function, will never explain certain special human attributes, such as the knowledge of the Moral Law and the universal search for God." He further insists that "science is not threatened by God; it is enhanced" and "God is most certainly not threatened by science; He made it all possible."

Other respected scientists have written numerous books regarding the junction of science and faith, including:

- Dr. Kenneth Miller - Professor of Biology, Brown University; "Finding Darwin's God: A Scientist's Search for Common Ground Between God and Evolution" - a lively and cutting-edge analysis of the key issues that seem to divide science and religion. He contends that, properly understood, evolution adds depth and meaning not only to a strictly scientific view of the world, but also to a spiritual one. Miller is a firm believer in evolution, he is one of America's foremost experts on the subject, but he also believes in God—and he doesn't think the two beliefs to be mutually exclusive.

- Michael Ruse is a Professor of Philosophy and Director of the Program in the History and Philosophy of Science, Florida State University. He is the founder and editor of the journal Biology and Philosophy, and has appeared on "Quirks and Quarks" and the Discovery Channel - "Darwin and Design - Does Evolution Have a Purpose?" (Toronto Globe and Mail Best Book of the Year) In clear, non-technical language Michael Ruse, a well-known authority on the history and philosophy of Darwinism, offers a full and fair assessment of the status of the argument from design in light of both the advances of modern evolutionary biology and the thinking of today's philosophers--with special attention given to the supporters and critics of "intelligent design."

- Darrel R. Falk is professor of biology at Point Loma Nazarene University in Point Loma, California. He is also the director of the Howard Hughes Medical Institute outreach program. His research interests have included molecular genetics of Drosophila melanogaster, organization of genes; mechanism of repair of chromosome breaks and molecular changes in the Notch gene in various species of Drosophila; and the use of gene cloning technology to characterize damaged chromosomes at the molecular level and PCR and DNA sequencing to compare homologous gene sequences in different species of Drosophila. He has also authored a book on the creation-evolution controversy titled “Coming to Peace with Science: Bridging the Worlds Between Faith and Biology” (2004) – in which he shows how an original and ongoing interaction of God with creation is fully reconcilable with the kinds of development identified by current biological science.

When searching for the answer to the question can I be spiritual in medicine?

  • The answer will always be personal
  • Spirituality may pre-exist training
  • Can develop during clinical practice
  • Emphasis in recent training modalities is typically only addressed in addictions programs.
  • Any other mention is usually “in passing”
  • Most recently (past couple of years since new Joint Commission standards especially)worked directly into medical education – quite often however, medical students may complete a “psych rotation”, with a “spirituality component” and have all the right answers on an exam – but be no better prepared in real, daily practice. They can take spiritual histories - Define spiritual “needs” - but they fall down in actual patient care
  • Also recently - Various larger hospitals have formed "Teams" - Could run the risk of forming specific “palliative care teams” where the “job” of spiritual care advisor is farmed out to a consultant or specialist

Spiritual challenges of a patient

  • Will it solve everything? NO! It’s a support!!!
  • Will it help, or will it hurt? Spirituality is recognized by many studies as beneficial
  • A patient asks - "Will my spiritual needs be met even if I have no specific religion?" Yes! Of course!

We wear “multiple hats” every day. Medical/clinical – treatment provider/pharmacist – spiritual counselor/rabbi/priest/deacon/nun – we need to be aware of medical and treatment issues, medication issues, and worship/spiritual issues – we should not become “practicing specialists” – don’t hand off the patient to the specialist, consultant, next treatment team on the list – LISTEN, CARE, DO and have mercy – open your heart –

We must be like the disciples who went out into the world where they were called, and met the people where they were, and did what needed to be done. St. Paul walked the dusty roads, teaching Timothy and John Mark, patching tents for a living, and sharing the Good News. He converted his jailors from prison, and rejoiced a the thorn in his own side, joining his own suffering with that of Christ crucified. He was “all things to all men” – we must also do this.

Wear as many “hats” as you can….

Divine Mercy - End of Life Medial Management of Cancer Patients and their Spiritual Care
Last week I attended a two-day conference in Worcester at Holy Cross College. I'd like to share my notes with you, each in separate postings.
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4th Annual Heathcare Professionals for Divine Mercy Conference
Medicine, Bioethics and Spirituality
April 29th & 30th 2008 – Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA
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April 29th
Elene Viscosi NP – Massachusetts General Hospital, Oncology Department – End of Life Medial Management of Cancer Patients and their Spiritual Care

Every Patient has ALL of these Need Areas: Physical, Emotional, Spiritual

- Goals -
Prevent pain and other symptoms; Support patient emotional well-being; Support family and other caregivers; Continuity of care, advanced directives; Respect, well-being; Spiritual issues addressed respectfully; Psycho-social issues; Decide - Hospice or palliative care; Peace; Integrity; Dignity; Hope; Pain and symptom management; Knowledge;Empowerment (patient)

- Skills -
Listening; Communicating effectively; Culturally appropriate; Knowlegable about not just medical needs, but also available community resources, etc.; Emotional support; Anticipating needs; Just “being there”


- Patients Want -
Information; Hope; Social supports; Ability to make decisions; Dignity; Respect; Pain management; Family input (Input from significant others, friends, members of their religious community, etc.); Their own input; Ability to make final preparations

Pain is a huge issue for many chronically ill / terminally ill patients. In 88% of cases it is poorly managed – often other concerns such as secondary side-effects or concerns regarding drug abuse are factors. What is not considered is how the patient actually feels.

Non-pharmacological pain relief methods: heat/cold, relaxation, positioning/repositioning, music, distraction, imagery, massage, humor.

Medications: Non-steroidal; Opiates; Biphosphonates; Radiopharmaceuticals; Radiation Therapy

Fatigue – “tiredness” is not fatigue – tiredness is transitory and is relieved with rest. Fatigue is pervaisive and is unrelieved by even extensive rest. Often associated with stress – such as chronic illness/terminal illness. Validate patient’s feelings. Correct underlying physical causes, if possible. Balance meds that might be causing symptoms – such as meds causing side effects of drowsiness, breathing difficulties, etc. Reduce stressors. Consider anti-depressants (beware of side effects, consider time to take effect)

What is “spirituality” and how does spirituality play into chronic/terminal illness?

  • No absolute definition – many cultural and religious definitions
  • Brings meaning and a sense of “wholeness” to a person
  • Deep, often religious feelings and beliefs – often quite strongly held
  • Spiritual care providers can be family, friends, chaplain, clergy, social worker, case manager, outreach worker, even pets – can be any person involved in the person’s care

Studies consistently show, over and over, that patients state that faith is a significant factor in their care

  • It is essential to treat the patient as a whole person
  • It helps provide a framework to the patient to help the fine “meaning” for what they are going through
  • Helps them find control over their feelings of anxiety, fear, and helplessness
  • Gives them hope and comfort
  • Is an effective coping mechanism

Why are faith issues often omitted from care and treatment planning?

  • Lack of education on the part of care providers
  • lack of expertise
  • too challenging
  • seen as too individual, too personal, “too intrusive”
  • seen as too time consuming

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Divine Mercy as a Way of Life and Dying with Dignity

Last week I attended a two-day conference in Worcester at Holy Cross College. I'd like to share my notes with you, each in separate postings.
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4th Annual Heathcare Professionals for Divine Mercy Conference
Medicine, Bioethics and Spirituality

April 29th & 30th 2008 – Holy Cross College, Worcester, MA

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April 29th
Dr. Brian Thatcher MDDivine Mercy as a Way of Life and Dying with Dignity

We all use our professional skills to diagnose and treat patients every day. We use other “skills” to help people become better persons, spouses, parents, friends – through healing not just physical ailments, but through helping to heal the whole person.

Spirituality of Divine Mercy

Devotion YES - this is a "devotion" - but prayers and other religious observations – especially someone’s “private” prayers need to be shared with everyone - this is important! We pray for others - and pray for their healing - and pray for their salvation! What is more important than that?

Divine Mercy Image The Fountain of Mercy – the two rays of light stand for the Blood and Water which flowed from the side of Christ – which symbolize Eucharist and Reconciliation – Life and Renewal

  • Chaplet – A Eucharistic prayer
  • Feast Day – Refuge – a day of great grace

A Way of Life

Most people in the professional world will say that “spirituality” or “religion” is for private, for one day a week, or for the family observance – but it is recognized by the United Nations as an international right to observe one’s faith as one chooses in all aspects of one’s life – as a way of life - ­ and even the Joint Commission recognizes this, mandating hospitals have guidelines respecting patients rights to practice their religion and spirituality as they are accustomed to. This means that doctors, nurses, social workers, and other medical professionals can also “live their faith” in the medical community as a way of life – wearing holy symbols, pins, necklaces, etc, gathering to pray, offering to pray for others, etc. More than “private” the Spirituality of the Divine Mercy is a way of life that includes concepts of:

  • Forgiveness
  • Trust
  • Mercy
  • The Role of Suffering
  • Humility, Spiritual poverty, Obedience
  • Death & Dying – unique vocation

Forgiveness is itself an act of Mercy

  • We resemble Christ most when we forgive
  • forgiveness opens doors to Divine Mercy. Recall the “Our Father – “as we forgive others….”

Chaplet for the Sick & Dying

  • An opportunity to offer up powerful prayers for those dying at this moment
  • A Eucharistic prayer
  • Christ promised St. Faustina He would come to the dying in their final moments – “The souls that say this chaplet will be embraced by My mercy during their lifetime and especially at the hour of their death.” “I pour out a whole ocean of graces upon those souls who approach the fount of My mercy.”

Trust

  • Thy will be done
  • Empathy – be merciful
  • Trust is the hallmark of living the message of divine mercy
  • If you died today…. Would you have any regrets?

Suffering

  • What good can come out of suffering?
  • How can it be linked to love? Must be done out of love – God IS love, incarnate, personified – we know love because we know God – He says to us – “I demand from you….” We do what He asks, out of love….
  • What to do with our suffering….
  • What to do for others….
  • It is at these difficult times that our faith is put to the test…
  • The Love of God is the Flower – Mercy is the Fruit
  • Look at the patients through the eyes of Love – not as bed numbers, not as illnesses or diseases – LOVE
  • Mercy is Love that seeks to lessen the misery of others

St. Faustina: "I desire to adore your Mercy with every beat of my heart and to the extent that I am able, to encourage souls to trust in that mercy, as you have commanded me, O Lord"

Listening

Slow down – live in the present moment – stop always rushing to the next task. Yes – you are always busy; there are always more patients, always more paperwork – SLOW DOWN – listen to the patient – the person – the SOUL – in front of you. Listen.

  • Introduce yourself
  • Make eye contact
  • Make actual conversation – allow bi-directionality
  • Listen
  • Respect
  • Evangelize through action – St. Francis of Assisi: speak the Gospel at all times – if necessary, use words
  • Don’t judge – watch for their baggage – it can be heavy
  • Call them by name, not room number or diagnosis
  • Offer hope
  • Remember the guy in the movie "The Mask" – the Mask made the wimp the strong, confident dude – be the person you always wanted to be
  • Make an opening for the patient to open up to you
  • See – use “peripheral vision” – the eyes of love

    Time Management

    Slow down – stop trying to fit 26 hours into every 24.
  • Make use of every moment, and give glory to God.
  • See God in all things.
  • Time moves on, whether you will it or not. Rush or not. Time will still move. You will still miss things, miss important things – like your kids growing up.
  • Stress kills. Slow down! You’re going to die anyway! You’re going to suffer anyway! Rush – and you’ll suffer more!

    Medical Burnout
  • Begins with life’s sorrow – excessive demands – criticism, death, loss, failure, dead ends, fear, rejection, inability to live up to everyone’s expectations – leads to:
  • Anger, guilt, shame, depression, discouragement
  • Anxiety, worry, thinking too much,
  • Not thinking at all, escapism, poor self-esteem
  • We forget that pain and suffering are the reality of the fallen human nature – and it all becomes far too real
  • Any sense of “spirituality” becomes dark, distant, lost

    Handling Stress
  • Live and lead a Sacramental Life – partake of the Sacraments, especially Reconciliation and the Eucharist as often as possible
  • Take time off – to rest, relax and recuperate
  • Exercise regularly
  • Watch for signs of burnout
  • Let God’s Mercy be your anchor – remember the road of life is not straight.
    o Be an icon of Mercy
    o Be Jesus to your coworkers and your patients/clients
    o You can’t give what you don’t have – immerse yourself in a sacramental and prayer life
  • Life is stressful and chaotic
    o We need to take time to pray – Morning and bedtime
    o Treat your body well – remember it is a “temple of the Holy Spirit”
    o Make time to remember joy – experience the beauty of God’s creation – enjoy nature – watch the sunset/sunrise, etc.
    o Worship
    o Confess your sins – the burden of unconfessed sins is like a bitter poison in your body that wears you down as badly as stress can
    o Get involved in a group of “like minds” – a prayer group, community, volunteer, etc.
    o Find meaning, purpose – be active
    o Trust – let go and let God – connect with the Ultimate Hope

This is a message to be LIVED – you spread it as much by your actions as by any word you speak. Bring the message of Divine Mercy to the world

We are in a unique situation to bring love, mercy and hope to the sick, lonely, hurting, and the dying. We could be the one person to really change their lives around. We might be the one person the Lord is calling to be the “tool” in the Lord’s hands. Can you answer as Mary did? “…be it done to me according to thy word”?

84% of Americans state they believe in God
89% said they were “religiously active” in some way
79 % felt that prayer helped their healing process
Fewer than 10% stated that the doctors who took care of them every spoke to them about prayer

A Feb. 2007 Study by the Dana Farber Cancer Inst. stated that 72% of people with advanced cancer felt they received little or no spiritual support from the medical system. The findings also indicated that greater spiritual support from religious organizations and medical service providers was strongly linked to better quality of life for patients, even after other factors were taken into account.

Given religious faith's ability to help people cope with illness, physicians' reluctance to inquire about spiritual issues may deprive patients of an important force for healing and wholeness, the authors asserted.

The Joint Commission states: “Patients deserve care, treatment, and services that safeguard their personal dignity and respect their cultural, psychosocial, and spiritual values. These values often influence the patient’s perceptions and needs. By understanding and respecting these values, providers can meet care, treatment, and service needs and preferences.

Christina Puchalski, a doctor and founder of the George Washington University Institute for Spirituality and Health in Washington, D.C., has developed a "spiritual assessment" to help doctors ask questions of patients, including:

- Do you have religious or spiritual beliefs that help you cope or that might influence your health decisions?
- Is there a group of people you love and who are important to you?
- How should the health care provider address these questions?

Wednesday, May 07, 2008
Mother's Day - How do you claim rest, when your soul is in pain?
Mother's Day is heralded far and wide and it is a wonderful celebration. Sunday brunches, roses by the dozen, spa day specials and breakfast in bed all help set aside the day to honor mothers.

Yet for so many it is a day of unspoken pain.

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened,
and I will give you rest... rest for your souls."
Matthew 11:28,29


The invitation is for those who have pain within their soul; those who are burdened down and weary; those for whom Mother's Day hurts.

How do you claim this rest when your soul is in pain?

You reply to His invitation.


"I would now like to say a special word to women who have had an abortion... The wound in your heart may not yet have healed. Certainly what happened was and remains terribly wrong. But do not give in to discouragement and do not lose hope. Try rather to understand what happened and face it honestly. If you have not already done so, give yourselves over with humility and trust to repentance. The Father of mercies is ready to give you his forgiveness and his peace in the Sacrament of Reconciliation. You will come to understand that nothing is definitively lost and you will also be able to ask forgiveness from your child, who is now living in the Lord. With the friendly and expert help and advice of other people, and as a result of your own painful experience, you can be among the most eloquent defenders of everyone's right to life" (Pope John Paul II, The Gospel of Life, 99).

If you have had an abortion, or have assisted someone in having an abortion, or someone you care about has had an abortion - and your heart hurts this Mother's Day, there are some things you can do as you look to God to bring rest to your soul.

Symbolic gestures can be helpful in bringing healing. As you have asked God to bring you comfort, consider some tangible action as you focus on Him, your Redeemer, your Helper, and your Healer.



  • Consider planting a rose bush or other flower, if you have lost a child by abortion, or by miscarriage, or you have had a child die in any other way - in memory of that special little life.

  • Reach out to a child in your community who is starved for the love you have to give, and ask God to begin to heal your heart. This takes time. Be gentle with yourself and run often to the Father for His continued healing.

  • Send a simple "I'm thinking of you" card to an elderly person in your community who might be spending a lot of time alone lately. Maybe they don't have any children to come visit them locally. Reach out. Again - be gentle with yourself. Don't expect too much.

  • Invite a friend to a picnic in the park or to sit on your deck and drink iced tea on Mother's Day.

  • Take a walk outside and pray for peace as you walk - for yourself, for specific individuals in your life, for the souls in Purgatory, and for the whole world. If you know how, you can pray the Rosary, or the Divine Mercy Chaplet as you walk.

  • If the thought of going to a Mother's Day Mass or Sunday Service is too unnerving, then then ask a friend or family member to go with you. You don't have to tell them why. Try going to a different church that day, or to a special shrine, cathedral, or basilica.

  • If you go to one of those churches that has all the mothers stand up, and you feel that you just can't stand being there for that ceremony - you have a couple of choices:
    • You can "offer up" your suffering - join it to the foot of the Cross, and join it to the suffering of Our Lord Jesus, and ask for his Divine Mercy.
    • You can silently pray during this part of the service, asking God to support you through this (very long) five minutes
    • If you truly find that you can't cope with you feelings, feel free to go outside for a minute, and get some fresh air - but then go BACK inside the church! ( Try not to let Satan and the demons of despair keep you from the Presence of the Lord - the more you let despair and guilt cloud your thoughts, the more you let Satan keep you away from the Lord - and that's just hurting you even more.)

  • Write your story - write out what happened to you. You don't have to show it to anyone. The National Project Rachel Resource Center has a message board where you can share your story, if you want to on their Message Board

  • Utilize the power of the Sacraments. If you have been away from the Church or the Sacraments for a long time, returning might be scary. You might want to try a retreat, such as "Entering Canaan", offered by the Sisters of Life, in the Bronx: http://www.flrl.org/EnteringCanaan.htm - or a Project Rachel retreat - http://www.hopeafterabortion.com/

  • If you are stuck on inward and downward, talk to a trusted friend, pray together, get counsel if necessary.

Declaring the power of salvific suffering, the Apostle Paul says: "In my flesh I complete what is lacking in Christ's afflictions for the sake of his body, that is, the Church.' ...Thus to share in the sufferings of Christ is to suffer for the kingdom of God."

Saint Paul writes: "Now I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake". The joy comes from the discovery of the meaning of suffering, and this discovery.... The Apostle shares his own discovery and rejoices in it because of all those whom it can help.... just as it helped him to understand the salvific meaning of suffering.

Sacrificial suffering is a rich Christian faith expression, modeled after Christ himself. It is a partial answer to the age-old question, "Why does God allow human suffering?" The Church has always taught that physical pain, mental distress, even minor annoyances, are not meaningless but are meant to be put to valuable use. Mary Immaculate is a special model of reparational suffering. Standing at the Cross in interior distress, her soul "pierced by a sword" (Lk 2:35), she offered all to the Father in a silent, "Thy will be done." She invites us, and strengthens us, to do the same.

As Jesus used the anguish of his Passion and the agony of Calvary to accomplish our salvation, so do our sufferings have supernatural value when joined to the Cross.

By willingly accepting our struggles and presenting them back to God as a "burnt offering" for the intentions and for the salvation of others, we cooperate with Christ and become real participators in the mystery of His saving act.

God desires for your heart to be whole and healed and to give you rest for your soul. His ocean of Divine Mercy is deep enough to forgive any sin. He always pulls us upward and onward. It will take time, but with your hand in His, He will enable you to move forward.God waits with open arms to comfort you. His desire for you is to heal your broken heart. Let this Mother's Day be different. Accept His invitation and begin the journey from pain to promise and find rest for your soul.

Let us pray:

Gracious Father,

I thank you for the mercy you have shown in forgiving my sins
and for the peace that comes from being reconciled with you
and with your Church. O God, you are faithful,
and you never abandon those who hope in you.
I know that my redemption from sin and death
has been purchased at the cost of your Son's blood.
In return for this priceless gift, I resolve today
to renew my trust in your unfailing Mercy.
In times of doubt, when painful memories of past sins
threaten to destroy the peace you have given,
let the power of your Holy Spirit cast out
all self-condemnation and give me greater
confidence in your word of pardon.
Teach me to encourage others so they, too,
may seek your tender compassion and come
to know your peace, which nothing can take away.
I pray this in the name of Jesus, your Son,
in whom you have restored me to life.

Amen.

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"Sometimes it is challenging to find a reason for what appears only as a difficulty to be overcome or even pain to be endured. Yet our faith helps us to break open the horizon beyond our own selves in order to see life as God does. God's unconditional love, which bathes every human individual, points to a meaning and purpose for all human life. Through his Cross, Jesus in fact draws us into his saving love and in so doing shows us the way ahead - the way of hope which transfigures us all, so that we too, become bearers of that hope and charity for others." ~ Meeting of the Holy Father with Handicapped Young People at St. Joseph Seminary in Yonkers, New York (April 19, 2008)

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